How good is good enough?
It’s sometimes tempting to settle for what you’ve got. Or to go back to somewhere you’re comfortable with. To give up on a dream because you’ve not got enough confidence to try.
It’s sometimes easy to lose focus of all the opportunities that are around you because one thing takes over.
And when you get to the end of your life, what will you look back on? Will you be satisfied with your life as you lived it? Or will you regret the missed opportunities, the things you didn’t try, the challenges you gave up on because they were just too hard or took too long?
What’s your dream? Really?
Take a look at your current daily routine. Does it help you move forward towards you goal, and if it does, are you utilising the time in the right way? Personally, I spent so much time thinking and dreaming I didn’t realise I had so much of the most important thing for getting me to my goal: time. I went in the wrong direction and lost focus. Now I’m clearer about what I want from my life and what I want to achieve. I’m focused and determined and spend more time working on myself and my ideas. But even then, I need to take the plunge and dive right in to the areas that terrify me. Because I know that it’s the only way to get where I want to go.
Shake off the comfortable past
Some days I sigh and frown and know that it’d be so easy to slip back into my old job, my old lifestyle, the things I know I’m good at. In these moments I browse job adverts and update my CV and dream of money, responsibility and power suits. I hunger for the stress and the long hours and the pride of damn hard work and achievement, although of course, these things came with a price. Namely stress, tears, frustration and no home life to speak of. In these moments I forget the bad. I just want it easy. I want to feel important again.
By letting go of the comfort of the regular decent paycheck, I’ve traded security for possibility. No longer am I bound my a finite earning ceiling, by a strict set of rules, by a culture where progression was dog eat dog, where overwork was expected and a life outside work was frowned upon. It may have taken a few years, but I’m at a place where I know what I want and I can almost see how to get there. I have hopes and dreams and they’re huge and shiny but oh my god they’re actually achievable. The sky really, really is the limit. And I need to work, but work to me now is different. It’s different in that I define my life. Work no longer defines me.
How comfy are you right now?
The biggest gains come from pushing yourself. Shake off the duvet of mediocrity and get uncomfortable. It’s the only way, by pushing yourself, that barriers can be broken and eyes can be opened. Don’t settle. Do something that scares you.
So many people, myself included, endure years of stressful or unstimulating work, truly believing that excitement and shiny, happy lives are for those other people. You know, the ones who just do what they want and always seem to land on their feet. The lucky ones.
It ain’t luck. Those people, the happy, shiny ones…they work for what they want. The reason they’re happy? They do what they love to do. They love their life. They create that life they love.
And yes it’s scary and yes it’s hard work and yes people will put you down. Let them, and surround yourself with people who inspire you instead, people who understand and mix in new thoughts, views and ideas. Challenge yourself and challenge your situation.
The danger of complacency is woven in and around our lives. It’s seen as normal to hate your job and to complain about your life.
Flick the switch and push yourself. Scare yourself, challenge yourself, get uncomfortable, and grow. Do things you’re scared of doing. Create your perfect life. Become one of those people. You know, the happy ones.