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Just because it’s easy doesn’t mean it’s right

Just because it’s easy doesn’t mean it’s right…Why the best option is usually the hardest

How many of your dreams from when you were a kid did you give up on? How many good ideas have fallen by the wayside? Any projects? Hopes? Plans? Anything that felt just that little bit too difficult?

Aren’t we told that when it’s right it’ll seem easy? That anything difficult just isn’t the right thing to do? Have you ever thought that yourself? I know I have. I can’t count the things I’ve given up on, because they were just too hard.

From minor disagreements about what education path I was allowed to massive life changing circumstances like losing weight. You name it, I’ve probably given up on it. I’m 31 now. I look back on those years and sigh to myself. What if I’d have worked on those situations? Just where would I be now? What could I have done? Who could I have been?

I know that fighting isn’t always the best way. Sometimes the only way is the easier way. But the difference is when the hard decision is when you really, actually, know you want to do the hard thing. When you know it’s the best thing for you. When you wish you could do it…but. But it’s just too hard.

I have some examples from my own life, over the last few years. I list a few right here.

I gave up on art, because it wasn’t a ‘real’ subject.
I gave up on trying in my physics exams and just walked out, because it was just too hard to learn to understand.
I gave up on keeping healthy as it was easier to eat junk food.
I gave up my high levels of fitness as it was easier to do nothing.
I gave up a decade of my life working myself into the ground, because it was easier than looking for a new job.
I gave up on keeping in touch with people as it was easier to imagine they weren’t bothered about me than to actually make an effort.
I gave up on my first business as it was easier to be paid by an employer than to go out and hustle.
I gave up my musical skills, for 13 years, as it was easier to watch the tv.
I gave up creating songs and singing out loud as I was told I couldn’t. It was easier to accept this than to try and prove people wrong.
I gave up on further education.
I gave up on my dream work, the work I love.
I gave up a lot of things.

So what if I’d followed my heart? What if I’d fought and fought for what I knew I wanted to do? How would my life be different?

Luckily, that isn’t the question. There’s no point dwelling on what could have been. The best thing to do is to look forward and stand up strong and damn well fight for what you know is right for you. Don’t change people but don’t let them tell you it’s wrong. Listen to yourself.

And so I promise myself now. I won’t give up. I won’t give up on helping people. I won’t give up on learning. I won’t give up on staying true to my beliefs. I won’t give up on my health and fitness. I won’t give up on being happy. I won’t give up on music and creating and writing. I won’t give up on feeling great and looking after myself. I won’t give up on my ideal career. I won’t give up on my finances. I won’t settle for ‘just enough’ in anything. I don’t want to be adequate. I want to be awesome.

I ask you to do the same. Promise yourself now. The thing you really want, the thing you know to be true. Promise yourself you won’t give up on it. Look forward, not back.

Fight against negativity. Stand up strong. And go get it!