Take a think back over the past few hours. How many negative thoughts or negative comments have you made, either about yourself, your situation, or the people around you? Have you thought to yourself? Have you written something negative on social media? Have you sighed inwardly when looking in the mirror? I know myself, even just this morning I’ve caught myself on that pessimistic path a number of times. How about you? And how did you feel?
Try it now. Think about the worst thing about yourself. Think of the worst thing about the person nearest you. Think of the worst thing about your situation. How do you feel? I’m guessing pretty crappy, right?
The sad truth is, that little, nagging spiteful voice is in all of us and all too often it pipes up without us even thinking. Day after day after day, imagine what this negativity is doing to our mood, our self-esteem, and the mood of the people around us. This is not a case of opposites attract.
So let’s flip it. That person you’re sat near? What is their best quality? Think of it magnify it, and add 2 more qualities that person has. Concentrate and amplify this, bigger, bigger. Tell them. Ask their help. Ask their opinion. Just smile at them.
The way you put yourself down this morning? What would your best friend say to you? Take that quote. Close your eyes and let it flood through you, growing in your heart and bursting through your chest.
Think of one thing you’re thankful for in your life, right now. Finding this hard? Do you have a roof over your head? Think small but think positive and the rest will follow.
Check in on your emotions now. I’m going to guess you’ve done a complete flip reversal from a few moments ago. It’s so easy to think the worst, to be consumed by those dirty grey echoes of mischief, those thoughts winging their way around your skull.
I’m not denying it’s hard to keep positive all the time, especially when we’re facing trying circumstances. I get it. But it’s possible to catch ourselves sometimes and quiet that nasty voice. Stay classy. Rise above. Don’t bitch just to get a reaction. Analyse the reasons you want to write something negative just before you hit send. Take a breath, a second, before those words pass your lips. See the thought in your mind? Shake your head and think of one, go-to positive thing about your self or your life. Even if it’s just the fact that you made a really nice cuppa this morning.
Positivity breeds positivity. Change your focus and bring some happiness into somebody’s day. By making others feel good, your world will start to brighten.
Be mindful of your feelings. If you catch the negative urge, just hit pause. think about the reasons why. Notice how your body is responding physically. Take a deep breath and change your posture. Think. How will you affect the world around you by this action?
Let’s start now. What can you do right now to make the nearest person’s day happier? Go forth. Be the sparkle. Smile. And let’s do this.